This is not my fault.
I am doing the best I can, which means acknowledging that it will never
feel like enough. I am only human.
I am gaining patience, resilience, wisdom and strength. I don't see it;
I don't necessarily feel it; but it's true. It just has to be true.
My home is a disaster - whether due to my Tasmanian devil child,
diminishing time and money, or pure, unprecedented exhaustion (or a combination thereof). I must learn to care less.
I have lost sight of my identity, my friends, my professional drive,
and my peace because I am laser-focused on my child's well-being and future
readiness. Still, I can take baby steps for my own sanity. For example, today,
maybe I'll shower.
I find myself saying and doing things I never imagined due to my
child's absurd, unpredictable behavior, interests and needs. I want to cry on many occasions;
but it always feels better to laugh.
I am overwhelmed by the seemingly infinite cures, therapies,
medications, treatments and diets that I am told will help my child. Some will
help; others won't. We'll unapologetically do what works best for us, when it works for us -
holistically, logistically and practically.
Each year, I will continue to search for the perfect school scenario
for my child; nothing will ever fit quite right. I will take it
day by day, year by year.
I am my child's best advocate. I will trust my instincts. I will
consult with professionals, doctors, teachers and psychologists; but mostly I
have to learn to trust myself.
I will feel judged. Sometimes, I really am being judged, so I should
grow a thicker skin. More important, however, I am judging myself, and I need
to learn to be kinder to myself.